yes, it happened again....someone asked me if i was wyatt's grandma. crazy, huh? i personally don't think i look old enough to be a grandma, but i've been reminded (repeatedly) that grandmas can be pretty young....i've heard as young as 34, even.....WOW! grandmas apparently are no longer just little grey-haired old ladies! (no offense grandmas out there!) i'm not looking for sympathy here....i got plenty of that on facebook yesterday, but it's just so interesting to me that people feel the need to clarify my relationship with wyatt! and why doesn't tim ever get asked if he's wyatt's grandpa???????
yesterday at the pediatrician's office a lady (grandma) said to me "he's your grandson, right?" my sweet response was "no, he's our little surprise gift from God!" we went on to have a very pleasant conversation, and she apologized, but i just wonder why people feel the need to ask that question! does it matter to a stranger if i'm his mom or grandma? if they want to talk about him, why can't they just say "that's a cute kid you've got there!" or "i bet he keeps you busy!"
as you've probably guessed, this is not the first time i've been asked this question. one day i was wearing wyatt in his sling at wal mart and one of the associates there asked me "is he yours?"......"um, no....i just found him and put him in this sling....is he yours?".....of course i did not say that, but i thought that was a strange way to phrase that question. then there was the taco bell drive thru worker who noticed wyatt and forrest in the back of my van and commented on my grandkids..... i said, "oh no, they're mine".....and she said "seriously?" really....would i kid about this? bizarre!!!!
i know that i am not alone in this situation.....i've heard that many of my friends have experienced this as well. i've just got to come up with a quick answer for their silly remarks! and make sure that i keep those grey hairs colored! peace.......
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Thursday, February 10, 2011
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
All Babies are Blessings...
a baby is such a blessing....you hear it all the time, you read it on greeting cards....just about everybody loves a baby! we love babies....and we were surprised to be blessed with a baby in our "older" years! very surprised indeed! i've posted about wyatt's birth in the march 18th post "our bonus baby story" if you're interested.
we did not have a prenatal diagnosis, and we therefore were not prepared for wyatt's diagnosis of Down syndrome. we received the confirmed diagnosis 2 weeks after his birth, once our pediatrician received the results of his karyotype. by that time, we were pretty certain that the dr's suspicions were correct....we'd had 2 weeks to pray, love, cry, pray more, enjoy, research, mourn....such a vast array of emotions post-delivery (as if childbirth was not enough!) ... but it was still hard....
all that to say that recently one of my mom's best friends was visiting me and wyatt, and she said "you know, not that it's a good thing that wyatt was born with Down syndrome, but it's the best thing that could have happened for your parents." i know what she was trying to say, although i initially took a little offense, and she's right about it being so great for my parents.
they are older and were of course, maybe even more shocked with wyatt's diagnosis than we were. it's a shame their generation has such a different perception of Down syndrome. i've actually been told that we had a local pediatrician who institutionalized his own child with Down syndrome 30+ years ago. how sad that his own personal decision probably impacted a lot of parents of children with Ds. i know of one local family, whose son is now 32, to whom this particular doctor recommended institutionalization.....so sad. i'm so glad that this couple, even in their complete ignorance about Ds (they knew nothing...had never even heard of it!) responded that their son was not a puppy, and they were not going to put him away.....they would take him home and love him....
my parents have enjoyed wyatt so very much! again today, i wish i'd had my camera or video camera to capture my dad's playing with wyatt! it's a beautiful thing to see the love of grandparents for their grandchildren displayed so openly! mom works on animal sounds with him constantly....today he was "mooing" and "oinking"! they both help him walk a lot; sing nursery rhymes with hand motions, etc.
i am so blessed and thankful that God opened up this whole new world of Down syndrome to us. wyatt is so joy-filled! he laughs and loves so easily! he has brought great joy to so many people....friends, family and to complete strangers as well! he's stubborn and hard-headed too...but in such a cute way! we indeed are tremendously blessed!
we did not have a prenatal diagnosis, and we therefore were not prepared for wyatt's diagnosis of Down syndrome. we received the confirmed diagnosis 2 weeks after his birth, once our pediatrician received the results of his karyotype. by that time, we were pretty certain that the dr's suspicions were correct....we'd had 2 weeks to pray, love, cry, pray more, enjoy, research, mourn....such a vast array of emotions post-delivery (as if childbirth was not enough!) ... but it was still hard....
all that to say that recently one of my mom's best friends was visiting me and wyatt, and she said "you know, not that it's a good thing that wyatt was born with Down syndrome, but it's the best thing that could have happened for your parents." i know what she was trying to say, although i initially took a little offense, and she's right about it being so great for my parents.
they are older and were of course, maybe even more shocked with wyatt's diagnosis than we were. it's a shame their generation has such a different perception of Down syndrome. i've actually been told that we had a local pediatrician who institutionalized his own child with Down syndrome 30+ years ago. how sad that his own personal decision probably impacted a lot of parents of children with Ds. i know of one local family, whose son is now 32, to whom this particular doctor recommended institutionalization.....so sad. i'm so glad that this couple, even in their complete ignorance about Ds (they knew nothing...had never even heard of it!) responded that their son was not a puppy, and they were not going to put him away.....they would take him home and love him....
my parents have enjoyed wyatt so very much! again today, i wish i'd had my camera or video camera to capture my dad's playing with wyatt! it's a beautiful thing to see the love of grandparents for their grandchildren displayed so openly! mom works on animal sounds with him constantly....today he was "mooing" and "oinking"! they both help him walk a lot; sing nursery rhymes with hand motions, etc.
i am so blessed and thankful that God opened up this whole new world of Down syndrome to us. wyatt is so joy-filled! he laughs and loves so easily! he has brought great joy to so many people....friends, family and to complete strangers as well! he's stubborn and hard-headed too...but in such a cute way! we indeed are tremendously blessed!
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