In Wyatt's Time.....

well, i posted last week about comparisons, how i compared wyatt to his little cousin who could do so much more than he could.   i mentioned that i asked my husband if it made him sad to see the differences, and his response was "no!"   end of story.....

so we've actually had some time to talk since then, and i asked him why it doesn't bother him when he sees other kids who can do so much more than wyatt can, who are younger than wyatt is.   his response was that he has accepted that wyatt has Down syndrome....nothing is going to change that;  he will develop a little slower than other kids, walk and talk a little later, etc.  i know all those things, but it doesn't make it any easier for me.    tim chooses to focus on what wyatt CAN do, not what he can't do!

so what makes it "easier" for tim to accept wyatt's Ds than for me?   i have accepted it, of course, but why does it still make me a little sad?   is it because as a woman, i'm naturally more emotional?   is it because as a stay-at-home mom, my "identity" is more closely tied to my children than a father's identity is?   is it because i'm naturally more "competitive" ..... no, i don't think so....we're both pretty competitive!   is it because i hear more often than he does "is he walking yet?"    i'm sure that it is a combination of all of the above and more!   

i am certainly proud of the accomplishments that he makes everyday!   i guess for the rest of his life we'll all be clapping when he does something....not really... but we sure clap a lot now!    he is such a cutie pie, and he does bring such joy to our lives!   so i'll keep trying to focus more on what he CAN do, not on what he can't; realizing that he will do ALL those things.....in his own time!     in wyatt's time.....